International dating habits
What I realized with Americans is that if you make out with them the way we do in Brazil, they get the wrong idea. ” He tried to sound really nice as he was asking me what was the point in “this.” So American, right? The first time I went on a date with an American guy I was so nervous because I felt like we had no intimacy whatsoever. For me, dating is meeting a 20 year-old that is a friend of a friend at a bar, thinking he’s cute, and then your friend making things happen. And then you still don’t go on a date, you say things like: “Everyone’s going to that bar on Friday, will you be there? It’s harder to meet people here — they’re anti-social.I’m always scared that they’re going to assume that kissing is anything more than “I’m kind of interested in you.”The first guy I went out with here, while we were making out he asked me, “Should I get a condom? I hope so.” I don’t know why I would put myself through the experience of being forced to talk to someone, but not even knowing if you like them. And I don’t know if I want to hook up with anyone in my circles.I think young people are more sexually-minded in Ireland. It’s certainly much easier to form platonic relationships in America.
We asked eight NYU international students to talk about their experiences dating and connecting to Americans. BRAZILThe biggest difference is that for us making out is pretty chill, you know? When I think of dates, I think of thirty year olds desperate to get married. I feel like here people have a circle of personal space that they only allow a few careful chosen people to penetrate.Relationships like that are generally frowned upon and condemned.It’s not so prevalent to have one-night stands — if you’re hooking up I think you must know the person at least a little bit.And Korea definitely has a growing hook-up culture, but it’s still not as severe as America’s.”INDIA“The American dating culture is very fast. In India, my friends have dated for a couple of months/years and it’s very hard for them to overcome a break-up.American dating culture is also very open — when a couple is dating, everyone knows about it.