Dating while divorcing with kids
My relationship with a divorced father of three has been one of the most grueling, difficult, maddening, fulfilling, self-revealing things I’ve ever done, and it has taken me a boatload of wrong moves and bad fights to find my way.
If you’re dating a single dad, these 10 guidelines can help you avoid my mistakes.
When I am my better self and I see that look in his eyes, I give him a kiss, tell him I love him, and go on my way.
(I am not always my better self.) If he was the kind of man who would put his girlfriend before his kids, you wouldn’t want him.
Now, let’s talk about some tips on dating during or after your divorce.
Don’t take this whole dating thing, or yourself, too seriously after your divorce.
But this period is for The Three E’s – Exploration, Experience and Experimentation.Yeah, I know, the children of the man I love don’t want me around, which makes said man feel guilty and stretched in too many directions, in turn causing fear and insecurity for us both.Tell me one more time that it’s not personal, I dare you. His kids dislike you only as a concept, not as a person—they’re looking for that same safety and stability we all are, and you just happen to be the embodiment of all that threatens that.While it’s true that his kids wouldn’t like anyone with their father, it isn’t anyone—it’s you.You are the woman who’s actually there, feeling resented, in the way, and often tossed aside for more important things.